Entering couples counselling is a risk. You agonize for weeks, months, maybe even years about whether to do this. You've had discussions with your partner about whether you really need counselling. You wonder how you'll fit another commitment into your already busy schedule. You wonder whether it will even work. Will this be worth it?
Entering counselling means that you'll be exposing your flaws and finally having to talk about those issues that you and your partner have been dancing around and avoiding for ages.
The First Session
In the first session we get to know each other. We decide if I am the right fit for you as a counsellor, and whether your struggles are a good match for my areas of expertise. We both test the waters to see how we will work together.
I like to hear your story in the first session. What brings you to counselling? How did you make the decision to finally reach out? What are your goals in seeking help? What's your priority? What do you need from me in order for our counselling relationship to be effective?
My Commitment to You
Most people worry about what I will think of them and their problems. They will wonder if they are beyond help. My commitment to you is that I will not be judgemental. I approach every new couple with openness, because I know that every couple relationship is different, and everyone has to take their own road to get to where they want to be.
I will hold space for you and your partner to have difficult conversations, and maintain safety for you both during our sessions. I will help you recognize the negative patterns in your relationship and work with you to find new, more positive ways to interact with each other.
I will maintain openness for the outcome of our work. You will make your own decisions about where your relationship goes, and I will support you and help you make the best possible decisions for your family.