I want you to know that it’s okay to love and hate motherhood at the same time
Motherhood breaks you wide open, revealing all those parts you didn’t know were there. The strong force that moves your exhausted body out of bed in the morning even though you only got a few hours of broken sleep. The love so deep, you don’t even know how it got there. The smile on your face even though you feel broken inside.
Motherhood also reveals the less pleasant parts. Parts that beg the crying child to please, please just go to sleep already! The bubbling feeling in your chest, up through your throat that comes out in yelling, frustration, and tears. The parts that scare you, a little or a lot, and cause you to wonder what kind of harm you might actually be capable of.
The commentary you hear running through your mind makes you want to hide under a blanket:
I can’t do this.
I am definitely messing these kids up.
I’m failing at motherhood.
I’m such a bad mom.
Mama, this story is getting you down. This inner critic sees you trying to pick yourself up over and over again, and then just when you think you might have your footing, it shoves you back down.
This stuff? This being Mom, Partner, Friend, Daughter, Employee, Boss…. It’s hard stuff! AND you can do this. You can do hard things. Despite how it seems in the moment, you are not failing.
I'll help you sit with these hard feelings.
We'll make some space for them and learn from them. Emotions, after all, are just information. We’ll use that information to make some adjustments, but we won’t let the hard feelings take over. They are not bigger than you.
We will breathe new life into those parts of you that remember your courage. Your “I’ve got this”, persistence to wade through the murky unknown where you don’t know the right thing to do, and you don’t know how it will all turn out. And you’ll learn to be okay with that.
You might come in and just want the basics, the coping skills, the How do I Get Through Today? The What do I do with the Guilt? So we’ll do that.
And when I sense you’re ready, I’ll gently nudge you down the path of taking a closer look at the old hurts, the wounds you thought were healed over, but have busted open with the birth of your child. But never more than what you’re comfortable with.
I know you’re already an awesome mom, and I can help you see that in yourself.
Ready to make a change?
The Technical Stuff
I graduated from a combined Bachelor’s of Social Work and BA in Childhood and Family Relations from King’s University College in 2007, and then later completed my Master’s of Social Work in 2014. I am registered with the Ontario College of Social Workers and Social Service Workers (OCSWSSW), which serves as a regulatory body to ensure that I provide top-quality service to my clients. I have training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy, as well as the Parent Education and Training Program through Braveheart Parenting here in London.
2018 - 12-hour Post-graduate Training from the Postpartum Stress Centre